Holy Cow Dave,

I have less than no advice as I am not dating.  After reading this post I may never as it can get complicated.  Let me know how it all plays out.  I can't even imagine.

Hi Dave,
My first disclaimer is I am not anywhere near this stage so this is all just opinion. I agree with Glenn that this should be talked about in general terms first, joint checking, who is responsible for bills etc. You know Heidi best so you may know how she will react to finance discussion. Sounds like she will be okay with the talk as long as she is prepared. Good luck. I hope it goes well.
Vickie

MikeSki wrote on Jul 27^th, 2010 at 6:31pm:


Glenn, Mike, All:

Thanks, your advice sounds really great. Sometimes I think way too much like an engineer (need to have immediate solutions), and that doesn't always work. I don't think we are to the point of mixing yet, but it can't hurt to have a good idea of how each other views finance. Or I could be watching Suze Ormann way too much.

I thought all the frontrunners had an agreement not to attack if another frontrunner was down or had a mechanical problem. I have not gotten all the way through the stage yet, so I don't know how it turned out. I did ride a couple of the 1 day classics for RMO in 1986, it was interesting how different those were from races in the US.

Thanks everyone, I'm in uncharted waters here!

As usual, I was way over-thinking this. I have to get out of engineer mode in my personal life...

We were sitting on Heidi's deck last night and I asked, based on the conversations we had last weekend if we should have a general conversation about finances and how we view money. Heidi jumped out of her chair, ran into the house (I though I was in trouble) and then ran back out with a file folder of stuff. Apparently, she was planning on asking me the same thing sometime soon, so she was quite happy I brought it up.

Turns out we are both quite financially compatible, we have very common views on finance and money. She said she was a bit worried about how I was doing, because she thought my new house was way more expensive than it actually was (the recession really helped keep labor costs down and I got my lot for about 25% of the appraised value).

I do carry a lot of Lynn's financial views, she is the one who taught me how to be a saver and we did live well below our means through our entire time together.

Thanks for the advice everyone, it was quite helpful. Yesterday turned out to be a great day, Lynn's niece delivered her first child, a girl named Anna Lynn. It's nice to have Lynn remembered in that way.

Dave T wrote on Jul 29^th, 2010 at 9:47pm:


Dave,

I'm really glad it worked out well for you and Heidi.  Having Lynn remembered like that is beautiful.  My sons middle name is matthew, after my best friend who died at 29 years old and it was Kate's idea to do it.  Naming someone in that way is a beautiful rememberance.